It took me while to know exacly what to post about. I knew I wanted to share what I was going through. But I didn't know where to start. So I will start with what seems to bother me the most. For those that do not know. I am pregnant with my third (yes #3) child, and yes I am only 22.
To be quite honest we wanted to keep the pregnancy a secret. Because we did not want to deal with the people asking, why did we do it? Instead of congratulating us for expecting a baby. I mean it is our third child, and people act like we have no idea the expenses that come with having kids. Or we never heard of birth control and condoms. I mean do people actually stop and think of the kind of insults they are saying to us?? Do we look or act that stupid, to not know???
But let me share what people really do not know!
1. My husband and I wanted to have another baby. Because we always wanted a girl. The girl we were going to have did not make it 4 years ago. ( We have 2 boys at the moment.)
2. We had planned to have the baby a year from now, and yes we know what birth control is! My husband was never really into birth control. He did not like me taking it, but after becoming unemployeed and KNOWING that we could not afford another child. We looked into birth control. We picked one we both agreed on and we both made sure it was taken correctly every day.
3. I was told by doctors I was not going to be able to have kids any more. From March of 2013 I stopped ovulating. Because of my hyperthyroid. My body would not ovulate at all!!! So why would I get on birth control? As a back up to make sure I did not get pregnant!!!
4. This is a high risk pregnancy, first it was my blood pressure. But it is under control now, now it is the baby trying to come out before its time.
And this is what bothers me. People are so fast to judge, because according to society I am messing up my life. I will never do anything, I will always be poor. And the list of negatives goes on, and on...
But what people do not realize is that ones you are a parent. You are motivated to do things, you have a small peice of you walking around this earth that needs you! It motivates you to do things you had never done before to make sure they grow up, happy and healthy.
Is money tight? Yes it is, I can't work becuase of my pregnancy and my husband is doing the best he can. Many people wonder why he won't get another job? Well we both prefer to be "poor" but happy, able to spend time with our kids. And being there to share all the good and bad mile stones. And to be honest we are doing better now, than when we had no kids. We are more stable, he have our car, our apartment our stuff. And before having our own didn't really matter as much as it does now.
I just wanted to share this, because even though pregnancy is one of the most amazing moments for a women. We are creating life! Society aroud you will sit and point at all the negative things that they can see in your senario.
To be quite honest we wanted to keep the pregnancy a secret. Because we did not want to deal with the people asking, why did we do it? Instead of congratulating us for expecting a baby. I mean it is our third child, and people act like we have no idea the expenses that come with having kids. Or we never heard of birth control and condoms. I mean do people actually stop and think of the kind of insults they are saying to us?? Do we look or act that stupid, to not know???
But let me share what people really do not know!
1. My husband and I wanted to have another baby. Because we always wanted a girl. The girl we were going to have did not make it 4 years ago. ( We have 2 boys at the moment.)
2. We had planned to have the baby a year from now, and yes we know what birth control is! My husband was never really into birth control. He did not like me taking it, but after becoming unemployeed and KNOWING that we could not afford another child. We looked into birth control. We picked one we both agreed on and we both made sure it was taken correctly every day.
3. I was told by doctors I was not going to be able to have kids any more. From March of 2013 I stopped ovulating. Because of my hyperthyroid. My body would not ovulate at all!!! So why would I get on birth control? As a back up to make sure I did not get pregnant!!!
4. This is a high risk pregnancy, first it was my blood pressure. But it is under control now, now it is the baby trying to come out before its time.
And this is what bothers me. People are so fast to judge, because according to society I am messing up my life. I will never do anything, I will always be poor. And the list of negatives goes on, and on...
But what people do not realize is that ones you are a parent. You are motivated to do things, you have a small peice of you walking around this earth that needs you! It motivates you to do things you had never done before to make sure they grow up, happy and healthy.
Is money tight? Yes it is, I can't work becuase of my pregnancy and my husband is doing the best he can. Many people wonder why he won't get another job? Well we both prefer to be "poor" but happy, able to spend time with our kids. And being there to share all the good and bad mile stones. And to be honest we are doing better now, than when we had no kids. We are more stable, he have our car, our apartment our stuff. And before having our own didn't really matter as much as it does now.
I just wanted to share this, because even though pregnancy is one of the most amazing moments for a women. We are creating life! Society aroud you will sit and point at all the negative things that they can see in your senario.
I am happy for you and I hope that god blesses you with a healthy and beautiful baby girl
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DeleteOh hun, you need to brush off the negativity & ignore those individuals! I am a mother of 8, & by the age of 20, we had 3. Number 4 was born 17 months later when I was 22. I am now 32, have been married to my high school sweetheart, who is 5 years older than I, for 13 years and counting. Yes, children are expensive, but it is a personal choice to have what you desire. My life is not over either... I am currently an EMT, & pursuing my bachelor's in Education. Both my hubby & I work at Amazon & we receive NO financial aid of any sorts. Yes, we don't have many of the riches that others have, but we have an amazingly wonderful family & more love than we could've ever imagined possible.
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